This is Ours


Everywhere he went, he took care of the land as if it were his. It was not until being in a place where he was constantly reminded that, legally, it did not belong to him, that he no longer practiced this. That was a low point in his life.

This is a piece of the story I heard last night, and it struck me to the core, knowing many of us in livestock care, land stewardship and agriculture often bare this same weight; face this same struggle.

A couple years ago, I decided to try and stop using the possessive pronoun, “my”. The reasoning for this was layered and often undetermined. I simply felt uncomfortable; being sure that my body, my feelings, my thoughts were the only energies I felt were truly belonging to myself.

Often times, it was driven by the disdain I have developed for the monetary system and the power it often gives undeserving individuals. This was most likely developed by the material driven culture I was raised within. I moved from a place primarily owned by all people to a county where 95% of the land is privatized. That probably fed the fire a bit.
Other moments, I felt a ping of fear as it came out: “my horse” “my dog” “my goats”– feeling as though I was risking my own freedom by condoning the commodification of other beings, human or not. I liked to [sometimes ignorantly] ponder the possibility of these being symbiotic relationships, ones that both parties were choosing to be a part of.
I found it lost all romance, unable to even describe the man I said yes to, as “my fiance”. It made me nauseous to be defined as his and guilty to call him mine. I feared in the use of this pronoun I was hindering his independence and my own. Unfortunately, we often became frustrated, feeling we lacked an alternative determiner.

This shared insight empowered a new realization; Perhaps this word is meant to be used, just more thoughtfully.  I desire for it be received from me not in any manner that implies possession, but as a declaration of commitment, responsibility and love.

This approach allowed me to imagine a healthier relationship with the landscapes and life surrounding us; promoting the dissipation of our battle with the economic system which has allowed -forced at times- all life to become commodities within it. Being granted the ability to purchase beings and ecosystems should not void the responsibility to care for them.

This is our land, these are our animals, this is our home. I truly believe we should not conform to a system that demeans them to dollar signs… and then often sells them to the highest bidder.

This can quickly and effectively remove a majority of us community members from the equation, decreasing the pride and care we take as we move through our shared spaces.

The included image came to mind which I snapped 10 days prior to now. When I saw this crushed pheasant [one I had consciously avoided only 12 hours before] I felt defensive of my community, my neighbors, my home. I wondered if the driver was from out of town, or was driving on their own roads too; had they consciously hit one of our neighbors or were they just driving carelessly through?

In beginning this discussion, I am determined to remain humble, hoping to feed more transformation in this word and many other terms of possession; we could possibly even redefine the meaning of ownership. Contributions and insights from your own hearts and minds are welcome.


If you own land, I imagine you have given thought to what it means to be a landowner. If you own animals, I am curious if you feel you belong as much to them as they do you. If you own none of the things one might own, I am curious if you feel your influence on the ecosystems you are a part of, is affected by your lack of possession. If you have no response to these topics, because you give thought to words made of more than two letters, your vocabulary most likely surpasses mine. Sometimes I am unsure I am using my brain power on the right things.  
Thank you for being here my friends.


Today, When I woke up, I moved my sheep and goats and then I walked to the edge of the woods.

I walked to the edge of the woods, despite having a million things to do elsewhere. When I arrived there, all those other things I could be doing disappeared and I experienced something new with an animal that I thought had left me.

With me to these woods, I took a body. The body was one I sometimes called Sahara.

Sahara, with her name, was gifted to me with some other alpines, and now she was the lead goat. From the moment I brought her home she seemed to respect and resent me, seemingly all in the same breath. I knew she respected me because she never pressured me, always kept her distance and moved away from me when I walked towards her. I knew she resented me because while she did so, she maintained steady eye contact. Looking me right in the face as if to say, “I am not yours.”

Sahara became a part of my herd and not a single goat hesitated to make way for her. She was not a bully, maybe just confident; or maybe so wise that no one questioned her.

When we would go on walks she was the last to catch up to me. Always staying behind for an extra moment to look at a view or eat one more pull of something. Sometimes half the herd would hesitate and turn back to follow her instead, but then she would decide to catch up as if she had proved her point.

If the herd was spooked she was typically the last to turn and run, preferring to stay and ponder the possibility of fighting back. I would think, Stupid goat, that is how you end up eaten, all the while growing fond of her fearlessness.

The herd would get out sometimes. When they arrived back home and I greeted them with hay, everyone typically seemed happy to be safe again. She seemed as though she was just making sure I was still where she left me.

When I brought home my buck with horns more than two feet tall, the goats ran from him. Sahara walked right up to him, horns less than half the size of his and nailed him in the shoulder. What a flirt.

I won’t get into details about why she died, but I knew three days ago that I should have killed her. I recognized the feeling, I knew it was time, and yet, I pushed her to stay alive.

The last time I made the mistake of making an animal die “naturally” (which by the way can be excruciatingly painful) I cried in my sleep for several days. That’s a blog post for another day.

This time, I did not shed a tear; that would have meant nothing to her.

I knew I had done her wrong, and I needed to make up for it.


When we got to woods, I removed her coat. Then I broke her neck and removed her head. I knew this goat would be disappointed in me for letting her death be less than purposeful. What I did not know, was how deeply I could heal from seeing it through.

It took me 3 hours. Typically I would hang the animal and use the body as leverage so you don’t have to get the hide dirty or push against the flesh with your hands. I did it with her on the bare soil. I could feel her muscles tug against me as I pulled the skin back. I swear I could smell the earth below us come to life as it prepared to thank her for what she would give it.

A very primitive mentor of mine has told me that to make use of an animals death this way, brings it back to life. This morning I felt the truth in this. I had the realization… or maybe it was a whisper in the woods, maybe the last bit of energy leaving her physical body: To her, she was not my goat, but now it was true that I was her shepherd.

I did not waste time apologizing, wishing for a different reality, or pretending she would forgive me even if she could. I thanked her; I learned from her; I sent her off in a way I hope someone sends me one day.


So many people eat meat assuming the animals meant nothing. The question of who was this? is often never asked, maybe because… well, that would be weird to talk about at dinner. But when you buy from shepherds, cattlemen and women, hunters… that animal that you decided to eat, did not take their last breaths without being thought of (in our case, these animals don’t take any breath without being thought of). That animal did not die a death full of fear or suffering and it lived a real life as a part of this world. If you can’t handle the idea of partaking in the flesh of an animal who died with a loving shepherd by their side, than by all means, become a vegetarian. I can’t tell you how much respect I have for that movement. But if your body needs meat as much as mine, and you understand the lands’ craving for hooves and manure (and the shepherds struggle to be paid for providing this impact appropriately), then at least eat meat that doesn’t have anything stored in its fibers other than happy memories.


*I appreciate you taking the time to hear me. I know death is not easy to discuss, but I have made it a long term goal to better understand how to handle it and make it more meaningful. If you have taken efforts to do the same, I would LOVE to hear about them.


**Sahara will be appreciated by me for the rest of my days as a human. If you are interested in learning more about the process of tanning a hide, PLEASE reach out to me! I will be hosting a two day workshop sometime in fall.




I am so grateful to my fellow humans when they express themselves, their true selves. Not just the facts and figures we memorize about the world we live in, but our ambitions, our feelings, our dreams and desires. It was not that he brought to light something I had not thought of; he brought to light that I was not alone in those thoughts. And in that, for the first time in a year, I found so much hope, comfort, and community.

There is not enough time in this production oriented world for genuine friendship. There is a pressure [created by our capitalist driven economy] to always be moving upward that outweighs the desire to be patient and wait. How difficult it is to get to know someone when it requires sitting still, listening and contributing to a relationship that may never provide you with more than a warm embrace or a lended ear in a time of need.


I am not the only one saying it.

Friendships, Community, Neighborly acts, Relationships built on trust, respect and care for one another. Those are how I will be determining the density of my richness. Those will be the units of measurement in calculating my wealth. Those are the things I want to be remembered by. Not the fact I am hard worker. Not my willingness or ability to hustle. Nor that I am a mover and shaker. For too long people have appreciated those things about me, and I have resented myself for it.

I listen. I care. I love. I bring comfort to friends. I create calm in the world that seems to never stop storming. That is who I want people to think of when I become nothing but a memory.

I am not sure how many of us there are out there in the world. I don’t know if our population has grown, or if we are just now finding the words to describe the way we feel. But we very much so exist, live and interact in this world. We are discovering how to live those lives we desire. Not within the current system, nor against it; but separate from it.

This woman continues to inspire these thoughts, even after passing on from her human form:

Maybe that is where it started, us coming back to our bodies, rediscovering our native tongue. With her words spoken 35 years ago.

Maybe it started there and many other places, all at different times. Maybe it is starting right now, in you, reading this. It is our connection to each other and the world around us, that can make this life so satisfying to the soul.

Thank you for connecting with me here.

May all our minds feel free to forge new trails.

This is the season I find myself encouraged by the dark and cold to spend more time inside. My most loved indoor activity is writing. I’ve worked tirelessly on several different pieces this season, only to store them away in my drive for no one else to see. I wanted to share them but the desire has always been outweighed by the following recurring, insecurity-based train of thoughts: first, I should become a better writer; then I will share; I should find a focus, no one is going to read my writing if it is just about me; I like reviewing my tools from the experience of a woman… maybe I’ll blog about tools. No wait, fuck that. 

A single pebble tips the scales once again. I shared a genuine part of myself recently, with people I call friends, but who barely know me. To describe the post-share sensation as something that “felt good” would be an understatement (or at least proof that I, indeed, did not become a better writer before starting this blog). I discovered that once I shared some of my deepest feelings, they were able to evolve. My mind felt invigorated to expand and grow, like a perfectly pruned fruit tree. 

I find clarity on a topic to always be hidden in the creases of it. So, the longer you take to unfold it and shake it out, the more obscure it seems to become. Sharing through expressive writing is how I unfold my most intense thoughts. It isn’t just pulling them out of the drawer and shaking them hard, so when put down later, they find those same folds and become blurry all over again. Sharing my writing feels like I am bringing those thoughts outside on a warm summer day with the perfect breeze. I am hanging them out on the clothesline, to become completely fresh feelings.

I am sure that this has been enough explanation for why someone with as many responsibilities as myself would take time to start a blog, but one last comment must be made to introduce it:

Thank you for reading. You are the perfect breeze for my musky, wrinkled thoughts.